Based on several pieces I've read, this post on the RantRave.com site sums up well the stupidity flying around out there about celibacy and the priesthood:
Rev. Alberto Cutie is the object of all of this drama. Cutie was the head of Miami archdiocese's international radio network and the head of his parish until he was removed last week after "the Spanish-language magazine TVnotas ran photos of Cutie embracing a woman at a bar and at a beach." Cutie was so well known and liked on the broadcast that he even earned the nickname "Father Oprah" for his superb relationship advice. It turns out that his advice was aided by some research and not simply instincts, as he has admitted that he has had a romantic relationship with the woman in the photos for about two years, involving sex. Outrage!
I've written already about what I call the "animal view" of vows, noting:
Of course, if we are simply complex animals whose passions and natural desires point us unerringly to what is most important and vital for us, the animal view makes sense. The animal view would say that vows are fine and dandy to the degree that they help us find "personal fulfillment" and, perhaps, aid us in getting along with others. Wedding vows, then, are nice because they express a certain romantic sentiment and help us feel good about ourselves and our spouses; naturally, if those feelings and needs change (as, alas, they often do), the vow goes to the wayside. ("We love each other very much," someone I know recently said about getting divorced, "but when it comes to being in a relationship with each other, we aren't compatible.") It served a purpose, but it makes no sense to force yourself or someone else to adhere to it if it threatens to stifle or thwart your desires.
Perhaps this situation with Fr. Cutie needs to be put into different terms—terms understandable (hopefully) to people who think sex is a commodity along the lines of soft drinks, summer apparel, and iPods. How about this:
I wonder if those who think it is no big deal that Fr. Cutie was having this sexual relationship would change their minds if they learned the woman he was romantically involved with was their girlfriend or wife. If that were the case, I'd like to ask: "Why does it bother you? She was just giving into her natural attraction and sexual desires. Ah, you feel betrayed? So what? Stop being a baby! You need to get over your backwards, old-fashioned notions about promises and commitments and realize that this is the twenty-first century! Who cares about promises of fidelity and vows of love when natural attraction and sexual desire is in charge of one's libido? Just how stupid are you?"
I don't think I'm naive about the self-serving, blind nature of humanity (hey, I'm human too!), but why don't people see that if vows are empty, promises are pointless, commitment is transitory, and loyalty is dead, a civilized and humane society is toast? Is it so difficult to comprehend the connection between solemn vows—whether religious or secular in nature (think, for example, of the oaths sworn by police officers, politicians, judges, etc.)—and social stability? Without trust, relationships cannot exist, grow, or thrive. Without authentic commitment, the bonds that hold together families, communities, and social institutions rot and break, creating the sort of semi-anarchic, corrosive, and cynical public square that is fast becoming the norm.
In short, if you are going to act like an animal, don't be surprised when other animals prey upon you. And don't be surprised if no one cares when it happens. In the words of the head-banging gang of sociologists known as Guns N' Roses:
It gets worse here everyday
Ya learn ta live like an animal
In the jungle where we play
If you got a hunger for what you see
You'll take it eventually
You can have anything you want
But you better not take it from me
Everyone,
I was there for 97% of the interview. Although I was pleased with how it came out, I did cringe a few times--not at Christopher, but at the singular focus of the piece on sex (the verb). And, the context with which he referenced Hugh Hefner was incomplete.
That said, this is a forum the Church must play in--even at the risk of being distorted--because much truth will come out. Think of the parable of the talents
I work closely with Christopher and believe he and his work are greatly misunderstood by some in the Church. We're dealing with touchy issues (sex, gender identity, etc) I only ask that you give his material a FULL read rather than just hone in on some soundbites. Christopher is completely within the pale and echoes both JPII's teaching and that of many great commentators of the past.